I am the planner.
Sometimes, of course, I wish I wasn't. I wish someone else would take over, wish I could just sit back and relax and be told where to be when.
But the planning gene runs in my family, and as a result, I am, more often than not, the friend you can count on for things like book clubs and supper gatherings, for Galentine's Day parties and breakfasts on my back patio.
I could resent this, I guess, but -- with the occasional exception -- I find joy in the planning. I like sending out invitations and having people into my home. I like taking the initiative and making sure things happen. I'm good at it.
There are friends, Rachel Bertsche says, who are keepers or connectors. Friends who are planners or gift-givers. Friends who are good with conversation or better texting at a moment's notice. Friends who are lifers or friends you know through work.
I'm the planner, to be sure. According to Real Simple magazine, I'm the "glue of the group."
All of that hits pretty close to home, despite the fact that I've never considered myself super outgoing or social. (I'm a textbook introvert, an INTJ all the way.) And Martinet is right; I do have to be careful that I don't get too resentful or exhausted making plans left and right. (I also have to make sure I don't bombard my friends with e-vites until we've all reached the point of over-exposure.)
The good news is, I've got some pretty wonderful friends who are not only reliable and helpful, but are extremely gracious and kind when I've planned an activity or thrown a shindig. Their appreciation makes me feel loved and lets me know I'm doing something right.
So my question is: What kind of a friend are you? Is it possible to be a different kind of friend to different kinds of people? If you have a second, take the Real Simple quiz. (It's fun!) Are you a planner or a confidante? A connector or a keeper?